It started as a little thing, a slight lump in my throat

An achy feeling in my bones that barely rocked my boat

I felt certain if I rested for a night or so

I’d wake up in the morning feeling fine and good-to-go

But the next day to my dismay a cold had taken hold

Tho thankfully the short-lived kind that dies before it’s old

Yet in its place a stronger foe much harder to appease

Rose up with a vengeance…I was seized with allergies!

Not the mild “achoo’s” one gets from smelling flowers

But the Richter-scale repeaters that rock your world for hours

Sneezing, wheezing, barely breathing, watering eyes and snotty nose

Eyeballs popping, never stopping – on and on and on it goes

Progress freezing, sanity teasing, nothing easing, nothing helps

Sputtering, coughing, in the offing now your sneezes sound like yelps

Snuffling, snorting, gasping, rasping, fighting hard for every breath

Frenzied fits of screaming sneezes after which there’s nothing left

But to simply wait it out beneath a dampened rag

And hope and pray for better days you don’t look like a hag

Or pause mid-sentence to await with crinkled nose and grimace

The random Twilight Zone attack of your allergic menace






April 14, 2016 at 9:08 AM Leave a comment

30 DAYS OF BLOGGING: NaBloPoMo 2014!

BLOG - big yellow word in midst of red words

As of this post, I’ve officially completed National Blog Post Month 2014:

30 days of daily blogging

in the month of November!!!!! 

In the beginning I wasn’t sure if it was the best or worst decision I’d made in a long time. Now 30 days later, I’m definitely glad I participated. Sure, it was excruciating at times — like having to turn in 30 small term papers in a row — yet in the end, I know my writing life is richer for it.

Here are 10 benefits of NaBloPoMo I’m noticing already…

  1. Learning to write on cue vs. having to feel “inspired”

  2. Writing in small bursts vs. huge stretches

  3. Remembering how much I love to blog  

  4. Discovering unused pockets of writing time

  5. The thrill of going from idea to “published” daily

  6. Connecting with a network of fellow bloggers 

  7. Gaining new blog subscribers every day! 

  8. Interacting with readers thru blog comments

  9. “Priming the pump” for future blog post ideas

  10. Renewing blogging habits for 2015…

I’d like to extend a heartfelt thanks to all of you who read, commented, subscribed, and shared posts on Twitter or Facebook this month. Without you I’d simply be…talking to myself. I hope your life has been enriched in some way, and I thank you for joining me as we endeavor to “find the growing edge” in Christ together.

From this point on, I’ll be blogging weekly rather than daily.

Unless of course…I decide to do NaBloPoMo 2015 next year!

November 30, 2014 at 10:51 PM Leave a comment


RED CHRISTMAS BALL with snowflake

Well, it’s happened.

We’ve opened up the Christmas decorations and taken the first one out of the box.

That’s it.

There’s no turning back.

Christmas season is officially upon us whether we like it or not.

And you know what?

I don’t mind it nearly as much as I expected.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Christmas decorations. Yet this year the prospect of dipping my toe into the runaway train that is Christmas, on the heels of a seemingly endless stream of houseguests, travel, speaking events, and most recently Thanksgiving cooking…didn’t exactly leave me chomping at the bit.

Yet to my surprise, once my hubby pulled the gadzillion “red and green” boxes from the garage, put up a few decorations, and turned on the Christmas music channel, complete with fun factoids about quaint Christmas customs in obscure Scandanavian countries, I gotta admit: I was hooked.

Suddenly I was 5-year-old-with-hot-chocolate-and-marshmallows happy, with shining eyes, a glowing heart, and my feet dangled from the couch for sheer delight. I know that sounds incredibly sappy. Who knows, maybe it is.

Yet even that grown-up smirk on your face isn’t gonna slow me down…

Cuz I’ve rediscovered a life-giving truth I’d almost forgotten: A little childlike joy now and then can sure CURE what ails you. If you don’t believe me, give it a try. It’s positively liberating.

All of which got me thinking…

I wonder how many other simple JOYS I’ve missed because I was…

too tired

too stressed

or too grown up

…to stop and enjoy a happy moment?

It’s worth pondering.

Right after I get a second cup…

…of that amazing hot chocolate!

November 29, 2014 at 2:02 PM Leave a comment


SHOPPING CART - back off (boxing gloves-horn)
And now for the LEAST thankful day of the year…

Twas the day after Thanksgiving when all through the land

Not a creature was resting, child woman or man

With tummies still bloated from yesterday’s feast

They rose before dawn to tackle the beast


Some camped out on sidewalks instead of their beds

While “get-one-free” iPads danced in their heads

Moms in their spandex and dads in their sweats

Would fight to the death for the best bargains yet!


When finally the doors were flung open wide

To let the great horde of shoppers inside

They dashed and they darted, zigged and they zagged

To trample the rest, their treasures to bag


Yet what to their wondering eyes should appear

But “SORRY WE’RE SOLD OUT” signs far and near

They reeled back in horror to hear the clerk say,

“Our Black Friday sale started…yesterday!”


November 28, 2014 at 12:11 PM Leave a comment


THANK YOU SO MUCH! tag with pine cone & leaf

Crazy as it sounds, the phrase “thank you” is as much of a gift for the GIVER as for the receiver.

Wanna give it a try?

Think of something you’re genuinely thankful for and say it out loud.

“I’m so thankful for…”

“Boy I really appreciate…”

“I can’t thank you enough for…”

Feel that little surge of endorphins? Amazing, isn’t it?

Saying “thank you” actually makes it EASIER to be happy!

Go figure.

Turns out even God’s toughest commands are full of love…  


“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”



Here’s wishing you and yours the HAPPIEST of Thanksgivings!

HAPPY THANKS GIVING (wood with orange leaves)

November 27, 2014 at 9:31 AM Leave a comment


CAMEOS of thanksgiving foods

Today’s the big day…before the BIG DAY…

Tomorrow in kitchens all over the nation, seasoned (and not-so-seasoned) cooks are braving the oven, stove, roaster, and the deep fryer to prepare the feast of all feasts for Thanksgiving day — and of course the microwave! (to keep everything piping hot til the very last item is ready)

But in truth, TODAY is the day that actually makes or breaks Thanksgiving dinner…

For today is the day of cakes, pies, jello molds, and a thousand other desserts and side dishes — the gooey heart and soul of Thanksgiving that fills in the gaps between the time-honored staples of turkey and dressing.

In fact, one of the easiest ways to tell a veteran from a rookie Thanksgiving cook is that veterans get started today, while the rookies (God rest their souls…) try to squeeze it all in tomorrow!

So as I toddle off to make mom’s famous jello salad and pumpkin pie, I wish my fellow cooks a wonderful day of food prep, flour-covered foreheads, and sampling. (oh yes…the sampling..mmmm!)

To the veterans I say… GO GET ‘EM!

And to the rookies I say… GET STARTED!


November 26, 2014 at 12:06 PM 1 comment


BOOTS walking thru leaves

For many, today’s the big day…before the big day…before the BIG DAY…

Cuz Thanksgiving is Turkey day…

The day before is cooking day…

And the day before the day before…?

For some it’s food shopping day, loose ends day, or the last day of work before the holidays. For me it’s all those combined.

Yet I’m also dubbing today “releasing and receiving” day.

I recently talked with a close friend who’s going through a tough season. She described her experience of pouring her heart out to God with tears and gut-level honesty — and how it freed up space in her heart for peace, comfort, and encouragement.

I don’t know about you, but that sounds pretty good.

Because I often get so wrapped up in responsibilities and concerns and “just one more thing” moments that I forget the simple principle of releasing and receiving.

RELEASING my frustrations, disappointments, and struggles

RELEASING my idea of how things “should’ve gone”

RELEASING my white knuckles of perfectionism and control

And making room for…

RECEIVING God’s comfort, encouragement, and provision

RECEIVING reassurance that God DIDN’T drop the ball after all

RECEIVING a fresh flow of the Spirit for TODAY’s challenges…

And I realize that my tendency to hunker down and just “get through it” may be the very thing that’s making life tougher than it needs to be.

Yes there’s still a lot on my plate today…yet a brief releasing and receiving walk just moved to the top of my list!

How about you?

Hope to see you out there…

WOMAN walking on autumn path

November 25, 2014 at 10:45 AM Leave a comment


SAD GIRL IN LEAVES - thanksgiving colors (CROPPED)

Can I be really thankful…THIS year?

Just three days til Thanksgiving!

For some that’s happy news, while for others this Thanksgiving falls right in the middle of a challenging season.

  • Maybe you recently lost your job, experienced a painful break-up, or are battling serious health issues?
  • Or maybe you’re knee-deep in a season of disappointment that doesn’t fit neatly into polite Thanksgiving conversation?

If that’s how you feel this year, take heart – you’re not the only one.

In fact, I’m kind of in that boat myself…

Don’t worry, there’s no huge catastrophe going on in my life. Yet for a combo of reasons I’m just not feeling all that yippy-skippy about the holidays. Sometimes life just deals us challenging cards to play that don’t always fit neatly into our cheery “holiday calendar.” In those seasons, a day of mandatory gratitude can seem like like trying to lift a thousand pound weight up the side of a mountain.

Yet this year I’m starting to wonder…

Maybe starting our gratitude inventory EARLY could help us find some hidden treasures in the midst of our holiday blues?

I figure it’s worth a try. And I’m game if you are.

Here’s today’s gratitude countdown question…

What about your current situation is actually EASIER than your normal circumstances? 

EXAMPLE: Not near family this year  

WHAT’S EASIER: Don’t have to cook enough for an army – who knows, maybe you’ll go out?  

And what will you actually MISS when this season is over? 

EXAMPLE: Lost job / Out of work

WHAT YOU’LL MISS:  Don’t have to ask for time off for the holidays – and no grumpy boss on Monday!

(Okay, now it’s your turn…)

I look forward to hearing your answers…AND pondering mine!


November 24, 2014 at 11:16 AM Leave a comment


SPEAK LIFE - woman and man

“The tongue can bring death or life…” Proverbs 18:21

This is the second of two guests posts from my friend Dr. Michelle Bengtson, a neuropsychologist who writes extensively on the subject of depression. If you missed it, check out yesterday’s post called “What NOT to Say When a Loved One is Depressed.”

Scripture tells us that the words we speak can produce life or death. As a practicing psychologist, I find this to be true with respect to mental illness as well.

The words we speak over our loved ones can built them up or tear them down. Just because we haven’t experienced the same suffering, doesn’t mean that their suffering isn’t real. Yet what we say may communicate just that.

In my practice, I often hear people saying things to or about depressed loved ones that only serves to knock them down further. Often I don’t believe that is the intent, but comments are made because they don’t know better. Even the Bible says “My people perish for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6).

If you aren’t sure what is inappropriate to say to a depressed loved one, read my post entitled “What Not to Say When a Loved One is Depressed.”

People who suffer from depression, anxiety or other mental illnesses often struggle with self-esteem, guilt, and shame. What they long for is to know that regardless of their suffering, they are loved, accepted, and not alone.

As you wonder what to say to help a depressed loved one, let scripture be your guide: “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

The Power of Life and Death is in the Tongue

Here are a few things TO say to someone struggling with depression, anxiety, or some other mental illness:

-I love you. You may have said this 1000 times before, but to the depressed individual, there is no better time to hear such words than when they are struggling to love themselves and wonder if others will give up on them and stop loving them too.

-I’m here for you. This sounds like such a little thing, but to the depressed individual who feels alone in their pain, this can be amazingly comforting.

-You are important to me. It’s vital to the depressed person to know that they are still acceptable, accepted, and loved.

-I’m sorry that you are going through such a painful time. It is frequently communicated to the person with depression, anxiety, or other mental illness that they should be able to just get over it. But expressing your sorrow for their pain communicates that you really do care, even if you don’t fully understand.

-Is there something I can do for you? This communicates your willingness to help. Sometimes a depressed loved one won’t be able to think of anything specific you can do to help, but just your offer will lend comfort and encouragement. On the other hand, often the little things weigh heavy on the depressed person’s mind. Your offer to help may really lighten their load. But as an aside, don’t offer if you don’t intend to see it through. That would make things much worse.

-Depression doesn’t mean you are losing your mind. When you suffer from depression, you can be more susceptible to believing that something is “wrong with you” and that you are the only one who suffers. Depression often has chemical roots just like a thyroid disorder. Having depression makes someone no more crazy than does having hypothyroidism or diabetes.

-You may not believe this now, but you won’t always feel this way. This might seem obvious to the nondepressed loved one, but to the depressed individual, they often need reminding that there is hope. The Bible tells us that “joy comes in the morning” and that’s a reminder that the depressed need to hear.

-What do you think might help you feel better? Asking this question helps reorient the depressed individual to think about those things that help them feel better rather than focusing on the negative.

-Who do you have as a support system? Asking this question helps the depressed individual think about who they have to lean on through this difficult time. It also lets you know to what degree they are really alone or perceive themselves to be alone.

-Is there anything that might be making your depression worse? This question can help the depressed individual begin to think about those thoughts, attitudes, or behaviors that perpetuate their depression that they may not otherwise be aware of.

-Is there a time when your depression is worse? This question will clue you in to when they are most likely to need your support more. For some, mornings are difficult when it entails facing the whole day ahead with no change in their condition. For others, night time is the loneliest time.

-We will get through this together. This communicates your acceptance, and your love.

-Nothing. In this case, it isn’t just a cliché. Actions often do speaker louder than words. I’m reminded of the passage in the Bible when Job encountered great hardship. In Job 2:13 it says that his friends came and sat with him for seven days and nights. During that time, they didn’t speak a word because they saw how great his pain was. Words could do nothing to help his misery, but their company spoke volumes.

Remember, when you are speaking to a depressed loved one, your goal is to encourage and uplift them. “But if it were me, I would encourage you. I would try to take away your grief” (Job 16:5 NLT).

Keep Calm and Speak Life

How can you encourage a loved one today?

To read more practical insight and advice, be sure to follow Dr. Bengtson’s blog at www.Dr.MichelleBengtson.com. 

November 23, 2014 at 12:29 PM Leave a comment


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“The tongue can bring death or life…” Proverbs 18:21

The holiday season can be a tough time for those struggling with depression, and for those who love them. Today’s guest post is from a dear friend of mine, neuropsychologist Dr. Michelle Bengtson who writes extensively on the subject of depression. Be sure to tune in tomorrow for PART 2: “What to Say When a Loved One is Depressed.”

Scripture tells us that the words we speak can produce life or death. As a practicing psychologist, I find this to be true with respect to mental illness as well.

The words we speak over our loved ones can build them up or tear them down. Just because we haven’t experienced the same suffering, doesn’t mean that their suffering isn’t real. Yet what we say may communicate just that.

The words we speak can help another ease their suffering, or they can dig a pit just a little deeper. The words of Toby Mac’s song, “Speak Life” ring true. For all of us, some days are wonderful, while others bring so much despair we can hardly imagine. But the words that are spoken over us can magnify our current condition.

Here are a few things NOT to say to someone struggling with depression, anxiety, or some other mental illness:

-It’s all in your head.

-Snap out of it.

-This too shall pass.

-What doesn’t kill you will make you stronger.

-You can always find someone worse off than you.

-I know how you feel (unless you really do know how they feel, and they know it)

These comments are derogatory to a person suffering from depression, anxiety, or other mental illness. You wouldn’t say these things to someone who has cancer, epilepsy, or paralysis.

By and large, these comments have become cliché in our society, and really reflect a lack of understanding, empathy, and acceptance. But even more importantly, they do not build one another up (“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up” 1 Thessalonians 5:11).

These comments can leave a person with mental illness feeling worthless, unvalidated, and minimized. Such comments communicate that their pain isn’t serious or isn’t important, or that you believe they choose to suffer. People who suffer from depression, anxiety or other mental illnesses already often struggle with self-esteem, guilt, and shame.

What can you say to speak life over a depressed one? If you’re unsure, read my post entitled “Things to Say to a Depressed Loved One.”

To read more practical insight and advice, be sure to follow Dr. Bengtson’s blog at www.Dr.MichelleBengtson.com. 

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November 22, 2014 at 3:48 PM 1 comment

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Each new day offers a fresh opportunity to learn or languish, stagnate or grow. Like all sincere Christians, I face the ongoing challenge of finding THE GROWING EDGE.



1. LISTEN without interrupting
(Proverbs 1:8)

2. SPEAK without accusing
(James 1:19)

3. GIVE without sparing
(Proverbs 21:26)

4. PRAY without ceasing
(Colossians 1:9)

5. ANSWER without arguing
(Proverbs 17:1)

6. SHARE without pretending
(Ephesians 4:15)

7. ENJOY without complaint
(Philippians 2:14)

8. TRUST without wavering
(I Corinthians 13:7)

9. FORGIVE without punishing
(Colossians 3:13)

10. PROMISE without forgetting
(Proverbs 13:12)

2014 NaBloPoMo!

NaBloPoMo November 2014